Yesterday while just having a fun conversation in a whatsapp group one of my friends came up pointing a finger to my character just because I have many good friends who are “boys”… Well,yes for a few moments I felt the shit in my gut but only for a few moments.. It made me ponder over the fact that what exactly a CHARACTERFULL WOMAN owns..
I then realised that I have been given an upbringing where boys were never a subject of as much importance as society gives them..”she has had so many boyfriends” “she hangs around with boys” “she talks to the male professors of our college” “she wears her clothes to attract boys” “gaaliyan deti h ladkon ki tarah” “dude she drinks more than a guy can”
I don’t understand why everything we do is compared and related to a MAN?? Forget that comparison.. Why everything a girl does is brought into the limelight and everyone in the universe gets busy deciding her character..and who are these people who have the self acclaimed power to call a woman characterless ?? Some morons who can’t accept woman being smarter than them just because their Male ego gets hurt on seeing us holding an upper edge can set the standards of character ?? and the rest of the society blindly accepts it as a grade given to that woman..arnt we really living in a society where words have no value..I mean the friend who intended to call me “characterless” also once upon a time spoke of respecting the liberalism about women..
Yes! I have sat with boys on the same bench.. I have dated many boys.. I have had had some of the best memories with boys.. I rode bikes.. I wear clothes I like..I abuse..I watch porn.. I have smoked.. I have laughed on double meaning jokes..i have come home late at midnight..i have kissed.. I have had alcohol
..I have beaten a few morons.. I HAVE LIVED MY LIFE THE WAY I LIKE.. if that makes me a characterless woman..then yes.. I am proud to b one..and I will continue to break the hollow prejudices our society has set and has been following since ages.. As far as my conscience respects the woman in me.. No set of standards can restrict me leading a life of my choice.. !!
I cannot change the society.. But atleast I have now learnt to care less..actually I have now learnt not to care at all about these so called RULES…still hoping to see the society change somewhere future in this life of mine..!!